Thirty-TR2UE

June 28^th

This birthday came up fast and as I always say, it’s an opportunity to reflect on the “light bulb” moments. As I journey through this decade, I’m embracing more of who I really am unapologetically. I learned a lot of hard lessons entering this new age. Welcome to Thirty-TRUE. Here are a few lessons I’m carrying with me:

-The worst advice you’ll ever receive is “Don’t ever change” word to Katt Williams. We are not meant to remain the same throughout our life. We are supposed to evolve as we grow through life to understand ourselves and create a space of joy.

-I’m not responsible for regulating someone else’s emotions.

-Your truth, may not be “The Truth.”

-Understanding a perspective doesn’t mean you agree with it.

-Two things can be true at once.

-We are all a work in progress, just make sure you are doing the work to progress.

-Someone’s projection reflects what they feel about themselves.

-They see you; they just don’t say anything. With that said, validate yourself. Be your biggest cheerleader.

-Pay close attention to how a person treats you when they don’t get what they want from you.

-To some, you are the nicest person when you are saying yes and paying for everything. Stand on your boundaries.

-Cherish your circle of friends and water them as they water you. Your friends love you, know the real you, and will show up for you in every way without a question.

-Having class and a sense of decorum is becoming a lost art, however, it separates you from being average. It has nothing to do with the money you make or the labels you wear but with the way you conduct yourself no matter the circumstance. I could write a separate post on this.

-Marriage, the birth of a child, and the death of a loved one brings the truth in how people really feel about you. It is an enlightening and disappointing experience all at once.

-Grief is a process and is not linear. It can’t be rushed no matter how much you want to just get through it, and it shows up in unexpected ways. Time doesn’t always heal it, but it can make it easier to manage.