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I spent 4 days in the beautiful Napa Valley, California. This has been on my list of places to visit for years and let me tell you, it was worth the hype and exceeded my expectations. It is a wine lover’s dream destination. I intentionally chose to be in the moment for this trip. Unfortunately, I didn’t take many tasting notes on the wines I tried, nor did I take as many pictures or videos. I was completely engulfed in the culture of Napa. From the friendly and helpful people, the farm to table fresh food, the wine, the weather (50-60 degrees in the morning and night and during the day 80-degree sunshiny weather) made our stay perfect, it stole my heart. Napa felt like home, I did not want to leave! Many more trips will be planned and will include a few girls’ trips. Eventually, we want to own a property in Napa to make our visits more frequent. Add Napa to your bucket list now, you will not regret it!
So, let’s dive in a lil bit!
Premier wine country Napa Valley, CA is home to over 400 wineries and over 90 tasting rooms. A wine lover and fine dining paradise. Whether staying for a weekend or a week you’ll find top-of-the-line accommodations and dining options in this lavish region. There aren’t any large airports in Napa so depending on where you’re flying from you may not directly fly in. From St. Louis we had options to fly into Sacramento, San Francisco, or Oakland. We chose Oakland, which is only an hour from Napa. The short drive is scenic. You’ll see the mountains and miles of grass and vineyards with perfect 80-degree weather with a breeze. Napa isn’t a big city but has a lot to offer. We stayed at the luxurious Grand Reserve at the Meritage, the sister resort of the Meritage which we had access to as well. The resort sits on a nine-acre vineyard “Trinitas Cellars.” The resort includes several tasting rooms, farm to table restaurants, a lounge, grocery store, and the award-winning Spa Terra.
Day 1
On arrival we pulled into the drive where we met with complimentary valet. We were greeted with a glass of JP. Chenet Blanc De Blancs Brut in the living room aka the lobby with stunning light fixtures and a burgundy, green, and beige color scheme. After checking in we’re escorted to our room by the concierge. On the way we passed by the pool and cabanas. We entered our room to see the lights dim with rose petals, small tea light candles, a bottle of prosecco, Trinitas Red Blend, a charcuterie, and cheese board along with macaroons from “Madeleine’s Macarons.” Our room came with a balcony overlooking the resort and vineyard.
After settling into our room, we went to Brown Estate tasting room in downtown Napa. Brown Estate is the first and only Black Owned Winery Estate in Napa. The winery itself is currently closed to the public. Walking up the steps to the tasting room I hear “Big Pimpin” by Jay Z playing, one of my favorite summertime songs so I knew this was my kind of place. There is art along the walls and a table of books by Black authors. The overall vibe of the tasting room was classy and hip. I highly recommend making reservations to avoid being placed on the waitlist. Two tasting experiences are available to choose from, a flight of four wines to try and a paired tasting experience that includes five wines and small bites. The flight I selected featured their 2020 Zinfandel and 2021 Merlot. During our tasting, the specialist gave us a brief history of each wine and how Brown Estate came to be. If you want to read more on the rich history, please visit https://www.brownestate.com/. Later that evening we enjoyed dinner on the resort at the Olive & Hay restaurant.
Day 2
On day two we did the Napa Valley Wine Train experience (https://www.winetrain.com/). Yep, probably the top Instagram and Tik Tok experience most have seen in Napa. The railcars are over 100 years old, and it travels 36 miles to St. Helena. On the way, you’ll see some of the most well-known and prestigious wineries in the world.
On the train there are several experiences from daytime to full day tours. We chose the Gourmet Lunch Express, a 3-hour journey that includes a 3-course meal. We checked in and took a few pictures with the backdrops and explored the gift shop. A tip from the clerk was to purchase a bottle of wine prior to boarding the train due to the price increase and that it is best to pay the corkage fee once on the train. When your group is called, you’re led outside to a photographer to snap your picture before boarding. You’re then greeted and led to your table with a welcome glass of sparkling wine. On the ride, as our courses arrive our guide lets us know about the wineries we’re passing. When dinner is over, we’re led to the dessert cart to enjoy something sweet after lunch along with your choice of coffee or tea.
After the wine train we drove to downtown Napa to visit the California Brandy House for the hubby to try their signature California brandies offered in Argonaut and Germain-Robin. Then after only a ten-minute walk we visited the Housley Tasting room by the Housley Family, which includes Tamara Mowry-Housley and Adam Housley. Y’all this place is a vibe! Inside their tasting room, referred to as the living room, has an at home feel. We walked in to “Can’t get enough” by Tamia and a group of ladies along with the staff trying to learn the shuffle. I haven’t learned the dance in full yet, but I will! On the wall are pictures of the family and career highlights of the owners. I chose to do a flight of reds and I loved each glass. Especially the 2017 Vintage Cabernet Sauvignon. You felt the love, passion, and positivity in that space.
Day 3
Day two in Napa was our anniversary so we didn’t want to jam pack our day with activities. We put on our hotel white robes and waited for our breakfast to be delivered and enjoyed a bottle of Veuve Clicquot. We sat on our balcony and reflected on our first year. Later that evening, we dined at the Charlie Palmer Steakhouse in downtown Napa located in the Archer hotel. After dinner we returned to our resort, changed our clothes, and took a walk while enjoying an Ashton cigar.
Day 4
Chateau Montelena is the winery estate that put Napa on the map (https://montelena.com). Their 1973 Chardonnay won the 1976 Judgement of Paris during a blind tasting. This is one of the most beautiful wineries I’ve ever seen. It sits on over 200 acres near Mount St. Helena. We chose the “Explore Ageability” tasting which features a comparative of current releases and vintages:
-2020 Chardonnay Cool Vintage
-2014 Chardonnay Warm Vintage
-2019 Zinfandel Temperate Vintage
-2019 Cabernet Sauvignon Temperate Vintage
-2007 Cabernet Sauvignon Temperate Vintage
Each gave a unique story as told by our specialist. We also had the pleasure of trying a 1994 Chardonnay. The last winery we visited was Conn Creek in the Rutherford appellation on the Silverado Trail. This winery caters to Bordeaux-styled red wine. For this winery we did the “Barreling Blending Experience” We tried different Cabernet Sauvignon barrel samples from various regions in Napa and learned a blending technique from our wine specialist all to create our very own custom wine blend to take home. This was the perfect way to cap off our vacation. After trying each wine, we created two sample blends for our potential finished product. We received a tasting wheel and a recipe card to jot notes on our blends. Once we selected our preferred blend, we began filling our beaker from each barrel of our favorite combination, then bottled and corked our wine. After 3 months we’ll be able to open our wine to ensure our blend, blends well. Later that evening we enjoyed our final dinner at the popular, and aesthetically pleasing RH Yountville Restaurant.
Just a few tips:
1. Make reservations for everything: Every restaurant, activity, and tasting we made reservations to avoid a wait. Also, most places in Napa require reservations.
2. If you plan to bring wine home, be sure to purchase wine sleeves. I purchased sleeves from Amazon to protect the bottles while traveling. I’m happy to say our bottles of wine survived the flights. View the wine sleeves here.
3. Pace yourself: You’re in wine country, everywhere you go will offer wine tastings and if you’re anything like me you’ll want to try everything. Drink plenty of water, eat well, and pack a liquid IV for extra hydration.
4. Go with a plan: We took months to plan this trip because we knew going, it would be overwhelming. It’s best to have a list of places you want to go and leave room for free time so that it is not too “planned.” You never know what you can discover when traveling. Plus, I love a good itinerary. However, when on vacation I don’t like my days to be too planned and filled every hour.
5. Be open: Whenever traveling, I’m a little more extroverted. I love casual conversations with people. Asking questions like where a person is from, what brings them to wherever the vacation is. You never know the connections you’ll make. Have great conversations, eat good food, and simply enjoy.
Do you have a bucket list vacation? If so, what is the next place on your bucket list? Have you been to a bucket list place more than once? I would love to know!
Follow the links to find more information on our experiences and some history. Also, follow my Instagram stories @shift2thirty for more peeks of our Napa Valley trip!
As joyous of an occasion a wedding is, it has a side that I see more brides speaking on. When I started working on this portion of the post, I made a list until I realized it was redundant. So, I’m going to sum it …
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“We’ve hired a professional photographer/videographer to capture the most precious moments. We want our guests to be fully present without distraction during this deeply intimate, sacred, and loving celebration as we become one under God. However, take all the pictures and videos you want at the reception :-).” M&E via our wedding website.
An unplugged wedding ceremony is a ceremony in which guests put away cameras, cell phones, or any other recording devices out of respect for the bride and groom in order to be fully present in the moment.
The past few years, if not more unplugged ceremonies have become more popular. Decades ago, camera phones were not a thing, texting, or social media. In a society that is obsessed with sharing every moment, why not keep some things private? Why not be in the moment? In my opinion, it’s hard to feel a moment when you’re looking at it through a tiny screen despite the moment being right in front of you. I think people in general miss the simplicity, intimacy, and sacredness of a wedding ceremony without any extra distractions.
Opinions vary whether to have an unplugged ceremony. However, it is solely up to the couple on the type of atmosphere they want to create. The only role of the guests and those involved in the wedding is to respect and support the decision of the future newlyweds, without debate. Now, to be real I’ve gone to weddings and had my phone out to snap pictures out of pure excitement, which is not wrong. However, if the couple stated “unplugged” I made sure to turn my phone off and put it out of sight to focus on what’s taking place. For me, the more weddings I attended, and the older I got the less pictures I wanted to take or record. From my faith, I took what was happening more seriously. This is not to say others that choose to have their phones out don’t take it seriously or have other intentions. With that, whether it was stated or not I choose to put my phone away to witness the two become one.
Here are a few reasons why we decided on an Unplugged Wedding Ceremony:
To create a space of intimacy: This allowed the focus to remain on the purpose and for our love to permeate the room. Everything that took place was meant for our close loved ones in the room.
We wrote our vows: Our vows were personal and the most vulnerable we’ve ever been, tears and all in front of our family and friends. We shared things we never said out loud and couldn’t bare anyone potentially recording or posting something so vulnerable on social media that we weren’t ready to share.
Photographer and Videographer: We hired a professional photographer and videographer to capture the ceremony. It can be distracting to the vendors with additional noise and views can be blocked. Also, we didn’t want to run the risk of the photographer capturing pictures with a bunch of guests on their phone. I know we’ve all seen those pictures of when the Bride enters everyone has their phone out blocking the view of the couple to see one another and the photographer. Don’t be that person.
Our goal: Through our ceremony we wanted to uplift, inspire, and encourage our loved ones. We wanted them to feel the spirit in the space and know God brought this union together for a divine purpose. We even said prior to our day “history will be made.” We believe having it unplugged helped accomplish our goal.
Simply because we wanted an Unplugged Ceremony. Yep, that’s it.
Though we considered the alternative especially when you think of the “what ifs.” I read a ton of horror stories in the Bridal Groups I followed on Facebook with photographers losing footage, moments not captured, and the extensive wait time of receiving your photos and video. With those reasons, it caused us to think if we made the right decision. However, we leaned on our faith and knew why we wanted it this way and have no regrets.
If you’re considering an unplugged wedding ceremony it is worth it. Just remember to let guests know ahead of time. We informed our guests of this on our wedding website, through signage upon entry to the sanctuary, and our day of coordinators made an announcement 5-10 minutes prior to the start time. Whatever you decide, be sure it is what you want to do, and feel is best for your big day.
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These are lessons I listed for Thirty that still apply for Thirty Won, with a few more things I’m carrying with me:
You are the only person walking your journey with that said, you can never be late for your breakthrough.
Surround yourself with people that love you out loud and that actively participate in your life, not ones that just want to feel included.
Being of service to others is fulfilling and important. However, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself.
Boundaries are everything and one of the best acts of self-love. They are meant to protect you and preserve the close relationships you have. Honoring them is a sign of respect.
I have no desire to go where I am not welcomed. What is for me is for me.
“No weapon formed against me shall prosper.”
“Faith without works is dead.”
“To whom much is given, much will be required.”
Pray for what you want and be specific in what you pray for.
Bible devotionals are my saving grace, it is practical for me. I see God in every situation no matter how good, bad, big, or small.
I am not for everyone, and everyone is not for me and that is okay.
Humility doesn’t mean absence of confidence.
Showing gratitude and contentment for what you have is important, but you can still desire more for yourself while actively working towards bigger and better things.
Gossip is not a bonding tool for me or a way to befriend me. Keep the mess to yourself.
Stop pleading with people to understand you, the people that get you, get you. No explanation needed and no assumptions are made.
Love yourself enough to NOT settle. I mean that in every way, not just romantically but every aspect of your life. When I stopped settling, that’s when everything in my life changed.
Every knock is a boost. Read that again.
Household appliances as gifts are top tier…fluffy socks too!
Build as you climb, one brick at a time, one step at a time.
Being you is the best thing you can do, even if the things you like and enjoy aren’t on trend with what’s popular. Be authentic always.
We all have rolls on our stomach when we sit down lol